RentMen:
Tell us a little about yourself, if you were to pick something what would you like others to absolutely know about you?
OakenHard:
I grew up in Oakland, CA. My love for my hometown runs deep.
To quote Beyoncé, my goal in life is to be happy. I know I can't be happy every day, but I try to make decisions that reflect movement toward a happier place. That includes my careers and generally, how I spend my time, and who I spend it around.
I make an effort to help people who may be less fortunate than myself. This effort informs many of my personal endeavors.
RentMen:
What are your hobbies, what do you like to do in your spare time?
OakenHard:
When I'm not working, I love to be outside in the sun. I love hanging at the beach or the park, sitting at an outdoor coffee shop or restaurant; urban walks (in New York), and nature hikes (in the Bay — nature is wondrous and necessary). I try to keep up with my journaling but could always do more. Randomly, I love LEGOs — every now and then I treat myself to a big new set and build it over the course of a few days. I read a lot of news and not enough fiction, and listen to an assortment of political and NBA podcasts. And I'm writing a book.
RentMen:
How do you go the 'Extra Mile' in your life?
OakenHard:
I am doing everything I want to do, and nothing I don't. My careers fulfill me in a way I couldn't imagine years ago. I'm going the extra mile by not settling for being ordinary or conventional, or someone else's ideal version of me.
RentMen:
What do you do for fun?
OakenHard:
My drinking days are behind me, but I do enjoy 420. I do not parTy, ever, but open to trying other things. I like watching basketball, or tennis. And I will serenade the hell out of you from my shower.
Spending time alone in my room with a toy or two, enjoying a high-quality porno can be very therapeutic. Though inviting someone over for some (good) sex (and filming it) is a great way to spend an afternoon too... I've always enjoyed gogo dancing, and would love to do another sex show (total exhibitionist here, if you couldn't tell).
My friends give me life. I have more great friendships than I can count on all my fingers and toes. I'm always getting into some sort of shenanigans with those crazy fools.
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