A: I have found it going the extra mile is not necessarily a good thing. Balance In all aspects of my life is my Holy Grail. When I find myself too far out of balance. My serenity tends to be challenged much more often.
Compassion and empathy are not just words. They are part of who I am. I am kind to myself...And I extend my kindness to others' No matter who they are or their place of origin. This act cost me nothing. What I get in return Is immeasurable.
A: I'm not trying to change the world only the part that I live in.
I do not like the phrase "Practice random acts of kindness." Being kind to myself and others is my default. It is who I am.
Greed is not a character trait that one should aspire to.
Even if you're not humble fake it. Humility is much more attractive than someone with a sense of entitlement. It reeks of insecurity.
Of course I am trying to change the world. We are all connected. The actions of one can affect those of many. Empathy compassion and having an open mind to all points of views is a good place to start.
A: The best experiences I have had in my life have one thing in common: resulting in paradigm shifts. I have had a few and hope to have more. This is what life is about--at least it is for me. Once I understood that *I* created the reality that I chose to live in, I felt empowered; I alone am responsible for my happiness and what that looks like to me. If something in my life challenges my serenity, I can choose to take steps to address the problem or I can choose to do nothing and suffer the consequences. I try to live in a solution-based perspective.
A: As I mentioned above, "Is it better to understand or be understood?" I have posted that question in the past to people who follow me on a few sites that I write for. Of course, both are important when conversing. I compare it to "the carrot or the stick."
The answer for me is always the same: I choose the carrot. It behooves me to understand where a person is coming from. When I then speak it is measured in ways that has the best chance of actually being heard, not talked over or outright dismissed simply because I chose to be (brutally?) honest.
Do you want to win? Do you want me to win? It is not my place to decide that for you. My path is my own. I treat each person as an individual, and I like when others can give me the same respect I give them.
A: Active listening is a skill set few are taught. When I was a trainer for the customer service department of one of the big three car manufacturers in the USA. I would tell a story to 30 trainees and ask them to write down what they thought the story was about. I would usually get 10-15 different answers from a group of people who heard the same story at the same time. The only difference was that none shared the same life experiences.
Life experiences shape who we are today. What is important to one may not be to another. Properly executed, the listener is engaged in the conversation without the person sharing feeling as if they are talking to a wall and equally as damaging is when the person sharing gets annoyed from constantly being interrupted. In its absence the one listening risks losing the person trust because they feel the person in front of them were not listing, They did not care enough.
It also saves a lot of time when I everyone is on the same page.
A: Balance is my holy grail. I deny myself nothing. Obsessing and craving would soon follow if I told myself "never again." Better to have a holistic approach such as "not today or not right now".
Moderation works best for me. If I eat a pint of ice cream? I know I will be walking a few miles the next day.
A: Active listening is my default. I find in most cases, it is better for me to understand than be understood. In doing so, I am able to respond in a manner that is best received, giving undivided attention.
Empathy is another crucial part of my life. It is in my nature to look for things I have in common rather than that which makes me different. I will always look for a connection, making for more of a truly intimate encounter.
A: I have been interviewed 5 times and can provide links to the interviews where you can hear in my own words intimate answers to questions asked.
mental stimulation (love to read)
A: I'm a unique person who offers a uniquely personal experience. I actively listen, engage, understand, and respond. My niche is to be more than just a hot body. I put the personal back in "encounter in person."
A: I always suspend my expectations so that I am always pleasantly surprised when I meet someone new. But this does not mean that I settle, just that I let the person I encounter share what type of person he is. I will always base my opinion on actions as well as words. It is how I reveal myself.
A: My mother liked to say,"There is nothing more unattractive on a human being than a sense of entitlement." Never have I fallen into the trap of entitlement. Whether based on appearance or perceived status, it reeks of insecurity. That's not me. We would enjoy the wine, the food, the beach, and share those little memories of mothers, of lessons, of strength of humility.
A: I'm comfortable in my own skin; I enjoy relaxing, wearing just that. I avoid comparing myself to others. I prefer to celebrate the accomplishments of others, while being present and enjoying life lessons learned.
A: Reading, writing, cooking. I love to swim.
A: I travel 9 months out of the year.