A: I don't cut myself any slack when it comes to accountability. I try to own my flaws in their entirety, without indulging in self-hatred or sinking into neurosis.
A: Travel? Ha! I can't afford to travel very far. I do enjoy it, though. I'd like to visit Columbus, home to the largest bathhouse in the United States.
A: I do my best to lead a productive life. I'm beginning graduate school to get a degree in cybersecurity, not because it'll make me money, but because it'll let me help people.
I mean, I have things I do for recreation. Punk rock and goth shows. I love a good book or film. I avidly play chess. But that's all secondary to leading a life that makes the world a little less shitty.
A: I have a personality. I'm not just a submissive, semen-stained sock puppet. I mean, I am that, but I'm also the sub for guys who are down for conversation /and/ sexual violence. Not just the latter.
A: My ironic sense of humor. The fact that I'm intelligent, and that I care about the things I believe. The fact that I'm blessed with a submissive sexuality and get to feel what it's like to let a man control me, to put all my trust in him.
A: DRUGS. No, I'm ddf. I love punk concerts, other alternative music events. Cities are always beautiful to me, and I love exploring them, trying restaurants, and cafes, looking at art exhibits. Peoplewatching. I like that, too. I don't mean to sound pretentious, but the sheer complexity and uniqueness of human faces, the fact that behind every one of them is a mind with their own feelings, beliefs, regrets, hopes . . . It's an amazing thing to contemplate.
A: My appearance. My personality, for better and for worse. My deeply submissive nature.
A: Recently, I've come to the realization that we have agency in our own lives. We're responsible for our own happiness. Nobody else. And life isn't something that happens to you, it requires your agency. So to that point, I've really started embracing life in a way I never did before. Let's try that new fetish, let's go to that event, let's apply for that new apartment. Et cetera.
A: My private gallery password is "1985." No period.
A: I love working with makeup, cooking, and exercising. And I especially love cooking for Doms.
A: Edgy androgyny, sex positivity, and the bottom bunk.
A: I think the most recent really great experience I've had was my first high-quality BDSM experience. The Dom I played with was a lovely, intelligent, kind man who had a ton of experience. A real renaissance man, with a house packed with books, gear, and objets d'art. The kind of person I'd like to be. He flogged me, poured hot wax over my back . . . but the most exciting part of it was mental. The first time a guy had ever truly made me submit, brought me to heel. It was wonderful, and left me feeling the happiest I'd been in a while.
A: For me, sex work is the only way I can really make a living without compromising my anticapitalist politics and my sense of self. All these gay boys working in the system that exists now, selling makeup, selling preworkout supplements, working in corporate management . . . I'm not like them. I hate having to censor myself, put on a mask that's inoffensive to the mainstream. And I hate to participate in an economic system that I see as fundamentally unethical, coercive, and destructive.
A: I don't drink or smoke. So I'm a pretty terrible goth. I generally follow a pseudo-paleo diet. All the veggies. Bone broth. Gourmet coffee. I exercise regularly and avoid drugs and alcohol. Mostly.
A: I'm much tougher, mentally speaking, than most would guess, and I'm also very compassionate and mature. As far as more prurient subjects go, I can do androgyny very, very well. And I'm a very good bottom.
A: In no particular order, gothy music, black clothing, makeup, tasty, healthy food, and hedonism.